The complexity of relationships has always bewildered me. An individual is simply incapable of being on the same page as any other person. Poetry about the ceaselessness of living on an island has been abound. We may cope with our emotional idiosyncrasies with loneliness, self-deprecation and pity. In the final analysis, we are each a product of our unique history. We experience, then we learn, then we alter future actions to maximize the payoff of future, similar experiences. Certainly, this inherent characteristic of all humans has been a fundamental element of our evolution and continued survival. To learn is to build off of the foundation that is already established. It creates a dynamic, sophisticated existence for each and every one of us.
How can we manage to have successful relationships while operating with a singular sense of the truth? Recently, a dialogue ensued with me and a friend. We agreed that “relationships are complicated”, suggesting that they are difficult enough to noticeably reduce the probability of success. How do we contend with our counterpart seeing different colors from the same canvas, hearing a different melody from the same song, associating a different emotion from the same poem? We may choose to accept, or may choose to reject. Implicitly, if we choose to reject, we are choosing isolation, which may appear to be a viable choice, but our innate social engineering will eventually prompt our subconscious minds to drive towards relationships, resulting in an internal conflict.
Essentially, relationships are a critical facet of our existence and resisting this basic need leads to depression, isolation, and a greater sense of hopelessness. Accordingly, if we are fortunate enough to meet someone with a similar perspective on life, accept whatever deviations do exist, and hold on for dear life.