Our preoccupation with sexual orientation has prompted many conversations within my social circle. The emotional, mental and intellectual response to this concept induces a variety of interpretations by individuals.
Is sexual orientation a choice? How can a person be “straight” for decades, then suddenly be “gay”? Oftentimes I hear people claim that either the individual was always gay and faking being straight, or is straight, deferring later in life to a gender change to improve his/her perception of life. Many go so far as to claim that sexual orientation is a choice, fluid enough to swing back and forth. The intrinsic issue here is how sexual orientation is defined. Is it based on behavior or internal desire or genetics? There is tremendous ambiguity with this phrase, further complicating the fundamental understanding of it.
I suspect that this extraneous debate about sexual orientation is simply a projection of the perpetrator’s underlying insecurity about his or her own sexual orientation. Essentially, the inability to define someone else’s sexual orientation alludes to the inability to define our own. Being labelled one way or the other accompanies a plethora of other assumptions, and many people are oftentimes preoccupied with how others perceive them.
Are we as a society responsible for identifying anyone’s sexual orientation, including our own? With all of the hatred and violence and tragedy that degrade the human race, shouldn’t the scrutinization of sexual orientation be considered trivial? Time is so precious. We are on this earth so briefly. I propose we dedicate this time towards resolving the inarguable transgressions that the human race has committed to its own members.